Actually doing it

Part 3/4Ok now we already neutralize negative emotions, we are calmer, we know the end result we want, and ready to start a dialogue. It is time to actually doing it. There's no one way to have difficult conversation, but there's a model that we can use from part 3&4 of the course.State your purposePresent your observationsState a fact and avoid assumptionDon't sound judgemental or threateningSpeak...

Before a difficult conversation

Part 2/4So I am now in the second section of the course by Marlene Chism. Key takeaway from this part:Never initiate a conversation when you are overly emotional. Wait until you have some time to think about your desired end result.Talk face-to-face or at least by phone call.Seek understanding. Hear...

What makes a conversation difficult?

Part 1/4A conversation that seems uncomfortable to one person may seem straightforward to another. There are many variables that come into play.1. The situationSomething is happening that you don't want to happen or something is not happening that you do want to happen.2. The relationshipDefine the relationship. How much do you care and what's the risk? When our conflict is with someone we care about,...

Biasa Saja

Suggestion Spotify di release radar itu lagu aneh-aneh. Iya sih saya suka Halsey, tapi dulu zaman New Americana. Iya saya suka Aurora, tapi nggak ingin dengar remixnya. Akhirnya daripada dengar release radar atau Discover Weekly yang isinya gak jelas, saya pilih dengarkan album yang itu-itu saja.Kemarin City J dari Elephant Kind. Di awal album dia sampaikan, it's not necessary to beat the ordinary....

Check Point

Sudah enam bulan sejak tulisan saya tentang closure. Ada beberapa hal yang saya kagumi tentang perubahan pada diri saya. Mungkin sebenarnya kecil sekali dibandingkan perjalanan yang perlu saya tempuh. Namun, saya yakin hal ini jadi salah satu katalis proses-proses selanjutnya. Segalanya terasa lebih ringan.Peace be upon ...